I haven’t been able to decide what to write about recently because I don’t want to overload you with just nutrition information – I also haven’t been meal prepping any exciting recipes (this week is literally chicken and broccoli). I’ve been pondering a topic for a few days and I finally came up with something. It’s something that’s been more relevant to me lately than in the past, but it’s definitely something that I’ve learned throughout my weight loss journey over the years. The lesson?
You can do whatever you set your mind to do.
Ok, ok. So I know you’re thinking one of two things: “Yeah, ok. It’s not that easy” or “Tell me something I don’t already know.” For some people, this is a simple concept. For others, it’s a very difficult task. Two complete ends of the spectrum but still a very real statement.
I’m not just talking about weightloss here either. I’m talking about life in general.
Hate your job? Get a new one.
Can’t because you don’t have the right experience? Go back to school.
Want to travel the world? Learn how to budget so you can afford it.
Want to lose 5 pounds? Stop eating like garbage.
Want to get a pet snake? They sell those (although I wouldn’t suggest this one).
Want to run a mile without stopping? Take baby steps, you’ll get there.
One of the things my Crossfit coach consistently tells us is “mind over matter” and he couldn’t be more right. If you want something bad enough, you’ll work to get it and I truly believe that.Whether it be any of the examples I listed above or something completely out of the ordinary – if you want it badly enough, you will dedicate time and effort to making it happen.
I’ve written about how I started my journey previously, so I won’t bore you with those details again. During my run today, I started thinking about how much I used to hate running. HATE it. When I was bigger, running f*cking sucked. It hurt my boobs, it hurt my back, it was hard on my knees and my feet and my ankles. Never in a million years did I think I’d be able to run 4+ miles without stopping, but I’ve done it again and again. I started out slow, running maybe a quarter of a mile, adding a few minutes, etc. etc. I remember how happy I was the first time I ran a mile straight. I texted my mom and she responded with “I can’t even do that.” I felt so accomplished. I’m pretty sure it took me over 13 minutes to get done, but nonetheless I did it.
I can’t express to you enough how important I think making small, attainable goals in order to reach your overall goal is. Those little accomplishments throughout your journey are SO important to recognize. They help you with motivation, they make you feel good about yourself, they give you bragging rights.
I made a goal a little over a year ago that I wanted to see all 50 states by the time I was 30 years old. This past weekend, I hit state #30 — North Dakota.
I have 20 more states left to see within the next 3.75 years. A lot of people don’t understand why I want to see every state or how I can even afford to go on that many trips. I get that – trust me, there isn’t much to see in a few of the places that I’ve been, but it’s still exciting to see how other people around the U.S. are living and how different the cultures are from state to state. I’ve done my research on how to travel inexpensively, I’ve sacrificed fancy hotels and dealt with layovers just to save a few bucks. Heck, I even Groupon when I’m in different cities so I can save some money on a meal. I’m not a millionaire and I don’t have unlimited PTO. I choose my time off wisely and I budget money accordingly. It’s an attainable goal.
The same goes for relationships. Not just intimate relationships, but friendships as well. If you want to keep someone in your life, you’ll make an effort to do so. If you want to get to know someone better or spend time with them, you will. A lot of us don’t realize that relationships are truly 50/50. You can’t expect someone to stick around when they’re giving 80% and you’re only giving 20%. You can’t expect to reach a goal when you’re only giving it 20% of your effort – it’s the same concept.
We’re all guilty for coming up with excuses as to why we can’t reach a goal. I can’t work out because “I don’t have time.” I can’t eat healthy because “I can’t afford it.” I haven’t hung out with her in awhile because “I can’t find the time.” Etc. etc. etc.
I hate excuses, with a passion. Throw an excuse at me and I will literally come up with 100’s of ways around your “reasoning.” I don’t believe in excuses because I know first hand that they don’t get you anywhere. When you make an excuse, you’re setting yourself up for failure regardless of what it is. That’s on you. If you’re going to take steps AWAY from your goal instead of TOWARDS it, own it. Don’t come up with BS reasons to convince yourself otherwise. (rant over, my bad.)
Give your goals the attention that they require and you’ll get there in no time. Whether it’s to lose weight, run a marathon, catch up with an old friend, or buy a pet snake… if the effort is there, it’ll happen.
You are responsible for your own happiness, you are responsible for your own life. Take control of it.
It’s just mind over matter.