So this blog post is going to be a little different in the sense that I really do want some comments/input.
I want to know what you and your significant others’ timeline looks like. (or your ex, whatever applies).
Were you friends before you started dating? How long were you friends before you moved it to the next level?
Did you start dating right when you met? When did you become “in a relationship”?
How long did it take to say “I love you” ?
How long did you date before you got engaged? Married?
The reason I ask is because the only serious relationship I had moved very quickly. Like, very, very quickly. And I think that because of that, I have a mindset that all relationships need to move at that speed (at least the dating aspect, not necessarily engagement). I dated a guy for 2 months before we were “official” and we were together 4 months before moving in. The situation was a little different because we met in Vegas and he was living/working in Alaska at the time. It was just easier to move in together during the time that he was in the area, but nonetheless… it was quick. We started talking engagement after 8 months (which is when I put the brakes on) and broke up after a little under two years.
That’s the most serious relationship that I’ve had so it’s really the only experience I have to compare things to. My assumption is that everyone is going to have a different timeline because all situations are different – I know that. But I think it will help my mindset a little bit to hear that from other people. I know there shouldn’t be a rush, I know taking things slow is OK. I just want others’ opinions and experiences to help my anxiety about it.
Feel free to share as little or as many details as you’d like, and if you’d rather private message me about it – that’s totally fine. But please give me some insight because I am really struggling here.